Healing-The Beginning

My Dear Friend,

Going down the path of healing is a difficult endeavor. From the roller coaster of changing emotions, to hearing other people's advice and opinions, to just trying to adjust and survive a new way of life. No matter who you are or what you are healing from, it can be a daily struggle. 

Healing from divorce is one of those hard, even confusing transitions. I found myself knowing ‘the right things to do’ to heal, since I had recently graduated from a therapy program, but not actually wanting to do them. So much emotion clouding and absorbing all my energy, it was hard to take different action than just trying to survive the day. 

Slowly, I began to realize that something didn’t fit with me, my life had taken a complete 180 turn and I was still trying to move forward like nothing happened. More change had to happen. I needed something different to help me change my situation. So, I started with something I could do, exercise my BODY.

The Body Keeps the Score

Something I learned was that your body is a system unto itself. These systems help you to survive life and when unfortunate things, when trauma happens, it helps you survive that as well. The consequence of this is that the body will remember and remind you in ways you may not understand, like tension in the shoulders or back, constant exhaustion, feeling anxious or attacked in certain situations. This idea led me to seek healing through alternative means, to search for something different than talking about my feelings. I needed to get outside my head. That is when I discovered yoga, and a local studio that seemed different, something special. I began attending classes and along with a good workout, I found love and acceptance, and a new appreciation for the art of yoga and breathing. These particular workouts were structured in such a way that I was forced to focus on the present moment, my breath, and any emotions I was feeling. It was a beautiful beginning to healing…but there was still something missing.

After almost a year, I had to say goodbye to the studio and move back home…introducing a whole new set of things to survive and heal and transition to. This brought me the next piece in healing, gut health.

Life. Changed.

I began to see change, to FEEL changed. This path opened my eyes to what the body is capable of and the healing it could do when given the right nutrition and care from the inside as well as the outside.

This addition of supplementation also brought the benefit of mentorship, community, and a push to grow my MIND.

Mind Over Matter

You might think this section is going to be about going to therapy. And though I did go to therapy for about a year after the divorce, I ended it. Leaving angry and confused after every session was not helping me, so I moved onto something else.
The journey of mental change, personal development, growth in all areas of life. 

My habits and routines were challenged and changed. My beliefs about myself, my mindset about life and finances began to shift and transform into something better and more open than before. I began using my time to evaluate every part of my life, to discover myself in a whole new way. I dug deep, felt the pain of growth and began to wrap myself in books, coaches, and any personal development training I could get my hands on. I educated myself, challenged myself, and discovered better ways of thinking, better ways of being. With these changes, ones that worked with who I am and wanted to be, I began to change how my life looked, felt, and flowed. 

As a result, I was then led to the final piece of growth and healing, energy and SPIRIT. 

Your Awakening

This final piece was what brought all aspects of life and learning into one beautiful picture. By focusing on my soul, I uncovered a deeper understanding of all other things I had previously learned. I got in touch with myself deeper, saw the world bigger, and learned once again how to find joy and love in all things. I found peace in daily life, learned that I am in control of my being. I understood that all events in themselves are neutral, their meaning is what I give them and I don’t always have to give it. I also learned the meaning of being present, understanding myself, and realizing that your perspective of life is based on the energy you decide to give it. God or Creator, the universe, the earth has an energy all throughout it just waiting for you to tap into. Communicating with it takes a shift in perspective and mindset. You must evaluate what you focus on, for that is what expands into your life. Focus on negatives, and unfortunate things will continue to happen. Focus on positives, and you just might find that things begin to get better and better.

Looking back I found that this path was meant to show me something more, to show me that healing takes time, yes, but that time is required for the actions and the journey toward whole self healing.

Health and healing I found on a holistic path, one that incorporates all aspects of my life. 

Of your life. 

Your body, mind, and your soul are all a part of you and therefore are a needed focus for your healing process.

It is a process that is best accomplished at times with outside help. 

If you are experiencing deep hurt and trauma, or have experienced it and are in the healing process, you are not alone. If you are ready to start a holistic journey to deep healing, but are unsure where to start, contact me here and subscribe, I would be honored to help you get started on your unique path. 

Love Always, 

A Divorced Eldest Daughter